The Stowe Lacrosse League aspires to be an outstanding athletic organization that provides a high-quality experience in which every athlete:
- Is coached using the principles of Positive Coaching and the USL Code of Conduct.
- Has fun playing the game.
- Feels like an important part of the team regardless of skill.
- Learns “life lessons” that have value beyond the playing field
- Learns the skills, tactics and strategies of the game and improves as a player.
The Role of Parents:
You, the parent, are equally as important to your child's positive lacrosse experience as the coach. In order for your child to get the most out of playing lacrosse, it is important that you do the following:
Be supportive of your child by giving encouragement and showing an interest in his or her team. Positive reinforcement encourages learning and fun. Research has shown that a ratio of five positive statements (compliments, positive recognition) for each negative statement (criticisms, corrections) is ideal for helping young athletes do their best. Try to maintain a 5:1 ratio in your comments to your child.
Attend games whenever possible. If you cannot attend, ask about your child’s experience, not whether the team won or lost. Some questions that you might ask before asking about the final score include: "Did you try as hard as you could? Did you have fun? Did you learn anything today that might make you a better player in the future?"
Be a positive role model by displaying good sportsmanship at all times to coaches, officials, opponents and your child’s teammates. "Honoring the Game" is an important part of what US Lacrosse represents. Help us by honoring the game in your behavior as a spectator.
Let your child set his own goals and play the game for himself, herself. Be your child’s "home court advantage" by giving him or her, your unconditional support regardless of how well he or she performs.
Let the coach. Refrain from giving your child advice when he or she is playing. Use positive reinforcement with your child’s coach. Let the coach know when he or she is doing a good job.
Respect the decisions of the referee or umpire. This is an important part of honoring the game. Your child will pay more attention to how you act than to what you say.
Read the rulebook. A full understanding of the rules will help you enjoy the game and educate others.
Get involved! A great way to support your child's lacrosse experience is by becoming a volunteer for the program. Here are some ways you can get involved: keep the scorebook, run the clock, line the fields, manage equipment, organize clinics, jamborees and team social events, photograph players and organize carpooling. Let us know how you would like to get involved, there are so many opportunities.
Parents agree to follow the "24 Hour Rule": If you have a complaint or question resulting from a game or practice situation contact the Coach the next day by email (email addresses on website) after a good night's sleep and arrange a suitable time to discuss your complaint in a mutually respectful manner. Please respect that our Coaches are working with a large number of players. They most likely have "day jobs" and families of their own.
The Role of the Coach:
Stowe Youth Lacrosse is committed to the principles of "Honoring the Game" and works in partnership with Positive Coaching Alliance (PCA) to provide tools and resources to the lacrosse community for this purpose. PCA is a national non-profit organization based at Stanford University with a mission to "transform youth sports so sports can transform youth."
US Lacrosse wants all players to enjoy their experience with the sport of lacrosse and to learn positive character lessons that will help them in every aspect of their life. Coaches are expected to embody the principles of the Positive Coaching Alliance, including the following:
A Positive Coach is a positive motivator and refuses to motivate through fear, intimidation or shame. They establish order and discipline in a positive manner.
A Positive Coach works to remain positive even through losing streaks. They recognize that it is often when things go wrong that a coach can have the most positive impact and teach the most important lessons. Regardless of the adversity involved, they refuse to demean themselves or their players by resorting to fear, intimidation or shame. They always treat athletes with respect regardless of how well they perform.
A Positive Coach coaches for mastery rather than victory, which they see as a by-product of the pursuit of excellence. They focus on effort rather than outcome, learning rather than comparison to others.
A Positive Coach recognizes that mistakes are an important and inevitable part of learning and encourages an environment in which players are willing to risk making a mistake.
A Positive Coach sets standards of continuous learning and improvement for themselves and their players. They encourage and inspires their players, whatever their level of mastery, to strive to get better without threatening them. They are committed to becoming the best coach they can be and continually seeks to improve their own effectiveness.
A Positive Coach "Honors the Game." They feel an obligation to the sport they coach. They love this sport and shares their love and enjoyment with their players. They feel privileged to be able to take part in this sport.
A Positive Coach respects their opponents, recognizing that a worthy opponent will push them and their team to do their best.
A Positive Coach understands the important role that officials play and strives to show them respect even when they disagree with their decisions.
A Positive Coach values the rich tradition of their sport and works to honor the spirit as well as the letter of its rules.
A Positive Coach demonstrates personal integrity and would rather lose than win by dishonoring the game. Dishonoring the game is worse than defeat.
Player Code of Conduct
Your player should come prepared and be dressed in full equipment with water, sunscreen and bathroom needs all taken care of so they are READY TO GO at start of practice.
Coaches are responsible for your child during practice times at the field. Players who are picked up late or leave the field are considered AWOL and not under the supervision of the coaches.
Stowe Lacrosse coaches are volunteers and give their time to your child to instill a love of the sport and to learn the skills so they can play for years to come. The coaches are not volunteering their time to 'babysit' or consistently reprimand bad behavior or keep your child on task. When at practice and games, players need to follow instructions, participate fully and be engaged. Please remind your player to be respectful and appreciative of their coaches as they would their teachers.
Good sportsmanship is always a must with teammates, opposing teams and officials. Players and spectators should keep this in mind so a good game is had by all.
Community Responsibility - Stowe Youth Lacrosse is to develop student-athletes of character and integrity who will serve as positive members of the community and the greater society. Players will practice positive leadership and display the courage necessary to advocate just causes in the face of public or social pressures. Players will hold themselves responsible and accountable for thoughts, feelings, and actions and recognize that as student-athletes you represent Stowe Youth Lacrosse, our school and our community.
Stowe Youth Lacrosse is proud to stand behind our zero tolerance drug policy.